Why do we tend mostly to focus on our weaknesses? Our brains have a huge bias towards negativity; they have evolved to focus on what’s wrong and then try to fix it. However, I want to conduct you to a paradigm shift, the one that leaves being that common focus- on what’s missing-, and start to appreciate what we have.
Personally, I think this change of mindset is the path to positivism, creativity… There is a unique combination of strengths, skills and characters traits; there is an upside to being who you truly are. You just have to find it!
To improve yourself and work on your abilities, it is important to be self-aware in the first place. Hence, to know yourself you have to find a method that will help you recognize your strengths and weaknesses. To acknowledge your own emotions, beliefs, and thoughts, I suggest you five simple and essential steps for focusing on strengths over weaknesses and explore your passion/s:
I’m sure you have heard this expression… It won’t come to you if you do not go outside of your comfort zone! You have to take actions and start learning, practicing and doing what you love! For example, if you want to become a better public speaker, but you are afraid of speaking to the crowd, you will never become one if you do not try! I wish that you also take a jump outside of your comfort zone and start doing things that you are the most afraid of. After some time you will realize that this fear just disappear and you are a different person and what’s more, magic will start happening around you.
All of us have some strengths. One can be a perfect musician, another fantastic football player and other have high math and programming abilities. The most important thing is to figure out your strengths and what you are good at. This is a long process, and some people are trying to find their strengths and passions throughout their entire life… The sooner you understand your strengths, the sooner you will be able to capitalize on them and do amazing things!
You also need to find your one skill and be the best at it, by practicing and doing it over and over! Believe me or not, when you will figure out this you will give your passion and your love for it. Focus on the qualities you already have, work of them!
What about weaknesses? Some weaknesses can stop you from achieving your dreams. Have you ever thought “I wish to be better in this field, but I’ll never be good at it.” When you are thinking in a fixed mindset, you will always perceive everything not to be achievable. Once you change your way of thinking to the growth mindset, you will feel that only the sky is the limit, and you can achieve everything you are dreaming off. So, first of all, figure out your weaknesses and things which are stopping you from being happy.
Then, just by changing your way of thinking to growth mindset start working on them doing small steps and believe me, finally, your weakness can become your real inner strength!
Everything begins with accepting who you are and from where you come from. Try to imagine, how you can have good relations with other people when you are not in a good relationship with yourself. Personally, there was a time, I was not able to accept the introverted side of myself, and I was always looking on the downside of myself and could only see things that I was not good at. I was even comparing myself to others and trying to be like them, and through which forgetting who I truly was.
Later on, I figured out that each one of us is unique, because of where we are coming from and how we develop through our childhood. There is nothing wrong with being different, or to do not have skills that others have. Be yourself and accept who you are and if you want to change just work on your strengths and weaknesses to be the best version of you for you.
Once you have already started accepting who you truly are, the next step is to start believing in yourself. Try to imagine, what if there is just you and there is no one and nothing else, who can stop you? Where would you be and what would you do?
Even though sometimes was difficult to believe in ourselves, remember that there are always people who believe in you and that are more than eager to help you when you doubt yourself. Never forget about that and surround yourself with the people who are not stopping you, but pushing you to achieve your dreams! Later on, you will believe in yourself, and nothing will stop you!
We hope you have found this post helpful and are looking to find the best version of yourself.